During my guided meditation with Deepak and Oprah this morning, I was reminded of something very important. I was reminded that we cannot give what we don’t have.
This is obvious for material things or money but what about the things we can’t see or touch? Things such as love, respect, empathy and compassion. The same rule holds true for these things. How can you give love if you don’t love yourself? How can you respect others if you don’t respect yourself or your body? How can you have empathy or compassion if you are not empathetic or compassionate towards yourself? I’ve probably done this meditation a dozen times before but it never resonated with me until now (or at least I wasn’t conscious of it).
I believe the reason this resonated with me so much this morning is because I’ve been struggling to show my wife love the way she needs to be loved. If you’ve read The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman, you will know what I’m referring to here. I know my wife’s love language is words of affirmation but it’s a foreign language to me. I’ve shown love in many ways but words of affirmation was never one of them.
When I went to bed last night, I asked God (or source or whatever you want to call the all-encompassing power of this Universe) to give me what I needed to continue to learn this foreign language. He responded by waking me up at 4:30AM and guiding me to this meditation.
I have to admit, I am very hard on myself. I work hard (although I don’t like to call it work because I love what I do) and I strive for excellence. The fact that I’ve been struggling with words of affirmation for my wife has been tearing me apart. Not only because I feel I “should” be better at this but, more importantly, because I know that my wife needs it.
God delivered and I received exactly what I needed this morning. The meditation reconnected me with my source. The power that is within us all. I now know (again) that I need to be easier on myself. I need to respect where I am right now. I need to be compassionate and empathetic towards myself. Most importantly, I need to love myself. If for some reason I continue to have trouble doing it for myself, I will do it for my wife because she deserves nothing less. By loving myself I will be able to love my wife the way she needs to be loved. It starts with me but I’m doing it for her.
With Unconditional Love,