What is thinking? Thinking is merely a serious of asking and answering questions in our mind. We aska question and our brain in turn searches for an answer. Our brains are designed to answer the questions we ask automatically. That’s what our brains do – they solve our problems! This is why it is important to being aware of the quality of questions we ask ourselves. The quality of question will determine the quality of answer we get and this will ultimately determine the quality of life we have!
What ends up happening, however, is that we can get in the way of our brains solving problems that actually help us by way of us asking ourselves the wrong questions or not asking quality questions. We can get into patterned ways of thinking which (if we are not conscious about it) can get us “stuck” in behaviours that may not serve us or the world around us. In other words, we are not asking quality questions and therefore not receiving quality answers. So, for example, we may ask ourselves a patterned question, such as “why am I always in debt?” With this question, the brain will come up with answers such as “because you don’t make enough money, you don’t know how to budget, you don’t have a good job,” etc. If you were to see a therapist, the therapist would recognize your thinking patterns and break it by way of asking a quality question such as “How can I have enough money to cover all my bills and do any activity I want?” Can you see the difference in question? Can you see how the brain will want to get creative in finding answers? Guess what? Now you don’t need a therapist to do this for you, you can do it for yourself (and in the process save yourself a lot of time and money).You can break your own patterns! You can solve your own struggles simply by learning the skill of asking yourself quality questions!
I’m sure you can see how this patterned way of thinking was keeping me stuck and not feeling good about my life. When I learned the magnitude of simply learning the skill of asking a different question, everything changed! Now, instead of asking a question that was limiting and disempowering, I ask myself the question “How can I be better at being myself?” With this question, comes much better answers to say the least. The best part is that the answer changes as I change and grow whereas before the answer was always the same and always made me feel horrible and stuck. There was nothing good that came from my old question. Don’t get me wrong, that old question does creep up every now and then, however, I am conscious of it and am able to follow it up with my new question. It is a practice; a daily practice.
I encourage you to begin to become curious and conscious of the questions you are asking yourself. Then become aware of the answers that arise. After that, simply explore whether the answer that you get is serving you or hurting you. If it’s hurting you, what are some quality questions you could ask yourself instead that would help you get the result or outcome you desire?