Living in a culture that has so many options, I find myself at times becoming so overwhelmed with what to do. While I am grateful for the abundance that surrounds us, sometimes too much is simply too much and we just have to take a step back and say “Whatever choice I choose, IT’s OK!”
To put this into context (and my hope is that you will be able to relate), I had a family reunion and a wedding in the same weekend. As you can imagine, there was a lot of food, however, for someone who practices a more plant based way of eating, its a little more difficult to get variety living in an environment that is still eating a predominately SAD (Standard American Diet). I found myself resorting to eating a less than optimal way (for my body) and compromised my values in hopes that the opportunity for people to judge me would be lost. The irony of this was that I was judging myself with the choices I was making (in this case food choices). People were going to judge me no matter what choice I made.
When I became conscious of the idea that I was judging myself for choosing to eat foods that would compromise my body it was such a relief. IT’s OK to eat or not to eat the food that is available was very liberating for me. When I recognized that, yes people are going to think I am crazy, weird, snobby, etc, but at the end of the day we have to take care of ourselves and our bodies that take us through our life. I found myself compromising my values and for what? In fear of what people would think! How many times do we do this to ourselves?! How many times do we go against our own hearts (creating judgements on ourselves) just because of what we “think” others are going to think about us (judging others)!
People are going to judge us. That is what humans do and we do this for very good reasons – to make sense of our world. The thing is, while we can’t control what others think of us, we can control what we think of ourselves and at the end of the day, that is going to determine the quality of our lives. People are going to judge. We are going to judge. I am going to judge. BUT, I am going to make a vow to you today that I am going to wake up and become conscious of how I am judging – how I am judging others and how I am judging myself (which by the way is the same. How we judge others is what we are judging about ourselves). Usually how we are judging others is what we need to take inventory on about ourselves. So for example, “how can I use that judgment that I just placed on that person onto myself and grow from it?” By becoming conscious of our judgements, we free ourselves. Its almost like all weight is lifted off the poor person we are judging and also OURSELVES! We are saying “Hey, here is what I noticed and this is what I am going to learn about it. – IT’s OK that I am judging because I am conscious of it and even more, it’s making me a better person because I am learning from it!”
Get conscious of your judgements. It’s OK to judge as long as you are aware and are learning from them. You are human!
With Unconditional Love,
This journal entry was inspired by my life and those in it as well as our dear friend of The IT’s OK Project! The ITs OK Project is about sharing and spreading the ITs OK vibe in the world. They celebrate life and embrace Being Human!